sugarbaby29mk asked:
Time outs are not working. I don’t believe in spanking. My kids are 5, 3, and 2. They won’t listen to me. My 3, and 5 year old girls are autistic. My kids get out of control at times and I am at a loss of how to control their bad behavior.
Time outs are not working. I don’t believe in spanking. My kids are 5, 3, and 2. They won’t listen to me. My 3, and 5 year old girls are autistic. My kids get out of control at times and I am at a loss of how to control their bad behavior.
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For your 2 year old try a pacifier I am a doctor and we recomend it
Do you use pictures with them? I use pictures that have a cross through them to indicate not allowed. so a picture of biting with a cross through it is no biting. I use these along with signing and saying ‘no biting’ etc.
Another way could be social stories? I make mine just by putting a photo on an a4 piece of paper and writing on the page. Something like, I can bite my apple, I can bite my sandwich, the things they can bite, and the things they are not allowed to bite, ‘i should not bite my sister, and mummy is happy when… I am happy when…in a positive way. (This was off the top of my head so..)
Could the behavior be related to lack of being able to communicate?? If so, finding a way to help this. I use PECS which has helped a lot for behaviors.
Could it be a sensory problem? …Give them some more sensory input or …less sensory input??
just a few ideas
I think that behavior therapy from a qualified professional is your best bet. Applied behavior analysis is the specific type of behavior therapy that is proven to be the most effective in assisting with children who are autistic. A good behavior analyst should be able to provide you with successful help.
Do you use signing to your kids who are autistic? it may help, i wold saylike the others answer is to use picture and have good and bad pictures and see how that goes,
can they talk at al?
how do you get them to com down, with you sitting with them and do some quiter for a bit,
First, just as with all children, you have to remain calm and not react and punish out of anger or frustration. I can’t speak specifically to autism, but I’m mildly ADD/ADHD, and was a kid long enough ago so that was not diagnosed. From personal experience, I can tell you that being forced to focus on the brief pain of a spanking always helped me be better able to focus otherwise, and I strongly suspect the same would be true with an autistic child. Whether you believe in spanking or not, you need to find the combination of disciplinary methods that work best for your children and use those methods consistently.
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