Toddler & Preschooler

Lady asked:


We have a 3 year old, Autistic son. He cannot talk, and has communications problems. What are some tips on where to start when it comes to potty training? Any personal advice from parents who have Autistic kids?

sugarbaby29mk asked:


Time outs are not working. I don’t believe in spanking. My kids are 5, 3, and 2. They won’t listen to me. My 3, and 5 year old girls are autistic. My kids get out of control at times and I am at a loss of how to control their bad behavior.

SuZe Q asked:


My friend recently discovered her son has autism. Before his diagnosis he was very aggressive with my oldest daughter in particular. In the course of a few months she has been dragged, pulled, pushed and choked by him. Knowing that something was wrong I always talked with my dd and told her to give him one more chance, he doesn’t always know when he’s hurting others. And so reluctantly she allows me to bring them back to play with them or be watched by their mom. He is now being treated and things were fine for a few of the get togethers we’ve had. But lately, again, he has gone back to being aggressive towards not just my kids, but others- choking, pushing, pulling… the same. At this point I feel I can no longer let my kids play with him. DD is terrified of him. I understand he’s got a problem, but how tolerant do I have to be when he’s physically hurting my child? I like his mom. We get along, and I would like to remain friends. What do I say to her?

shojo asked:


What behaviors does your child exhibit, and how do you correct them? I’m finding discipline to be much different with my autistic tot than for my other two children. She bites, kicks, scratches, punches, anything to inflict pain. She frequently bites herself or bangs her head on the floor or wall. I’m afraid she’s going to harm herself, but she seems to feel no pain, and takes joy in others’ pain (that she inflicts, that is.) She is also still non-verbal at 32 months old. What has worked for you?
She is enrolled in Easter Seals, and we have a discipline plan in place that is the same for home and school, but 2 months into it, and it’s not working. She’s been at ES for 2 years now, she’s been delayed almost since birth. She does get PT, OT, and Speech. Her birth mother has Fragile X, and my daughter will be tested for it at the genetics clinic in February.

sobusy asked:


My child is 3 and had a blood test for allergies . He is allergic to eggs,milk,wheat and beef. What kind of supplements do you recommend and will he outgrow these allergies? He has a few autistic behaviors but was not dg with autism by specialists. I assume these behaviors are because of his allergies. What have you tried with your child and worked? I heard about gfcf diet and I started to do that now but it’s very hard to find products not to mention expensive. Any website that has cheaper products? Also what gfcf products can I find to Walmart?

FSG asked:


I have a 5 years old kid. She had a tough time when realtives took care of her . She was 2 when they started taking care of her and it continued for a year. They were fight a lot between themself and also with me and other family members. And they did not teach her anything since they believed that before 5 there was no use to learn anything. And they speak with the accent my daughter couldnot understood. I was all in my own problem with them and only thing I could recall the change of her is that she became TOO attached to me. After they left, I had other problem to deal with, It tooke me 8month to settle it. Now she is in preschool. She’s constatnly doing somethings bad to break the rule although undrstands that is wrong. she will not do anything like that for me and always so good when we are together. She engages well in conversition and always have eye-eye contact. She become different when other ones present.
IS her behavior related to the tough time she had?

charwebb asked:


Okay. So where to start..? My daughter is 4 years old. Really, a great girl. Loving, happy most of the time, smart, picks up on everything so quickly. She knows her abc’s, can write and copy some letters, can tell colors, shapes, letters etc. apart.
So, as far as I can see she has no developmental milestones. She has always learned fast. She started walking at 10 months. Potty trained at 2 years old. )

I am a stay at home Mom and noticed that over the past oh.. six months or so my daughter has been majorly attached. Like, if I leave the room sometimes she will freak out or throw a fit. She is also in baton and was in ballet last year. She does fine in those classes usually unless someone hurts her feelings or says no and then she starts crying and usually won’t finish out the class.

She loves the Noggin channel way too much. We have cut out cartoons. If we say she can watch one 30 min show on noggin she is excited and says ok but, then when we tell her it’s going off she throws the biggest fit. Or when I am trying to dress her, she will cry and throw huge fits saying the close are either too tight or too big. Usually they fit her just right. I literally change her outfits until she finds something she is happy but making her happy in the clothing situation is very hard!

She has picked up a habit of chewing on her hair. Which I just figured is “normal” like some kids suck their thumbs or bite their nails…?

Lately if I going to the gas station and she is in the backseat I will say; “Mommy is going to pump this gas and I will be right back in.” I always leave the windows open and talk to her but, she starts throwing a fit, unbuckles her seat belt and cries. So, now I have gone to letting her come out w/me and holding my hand while I pump the gas.

When it is bathtime sometimes she throws the biggest fits. She will say, “I want hugs. Hold me mommy, no I don’t want a bath right now.” I’ll give her a hug and hold her for a few and tell her “okay now we need to go get your bath.” and if I put her down she’ll start screaming “up up uppie”

I don’t know if I am over reacting or what.. My husband and I are really starting to worry tho.
It’s very hard to get her to sleep in her own room in her own bed as well. It takes a long time to get her to fall asleep.
Oh and shoes. It is such a pain to get her to wear socks and shoes. She will throw the biggest fits over these as well. Screaming and crying and if her daddy says, “you need to put these on.” sometimes she will just start crying and run to me like he just beat the crap out of her or something…

She is our only child so needless to say she has been spoiled and I don’t think we have been as strict w/her as we should have been.

If any of you have little girls her age that have autism will you please send me the signs of your children.
Please nice answers only. I don’t try to tell other people how to raise their kids so don’t tell me. I’m just looking for some helpful advice, please.

I don’t know weather to chalk her behavior up to the average 4 year old that has an attitude or what….

She is so loving, so thoughtful and is always telling me she loves me.
She has her really good days and her really bad days…

I am not making excuses for my daughters behavior. I know she is spoiled as I have put.

Thank you Sara, Melissa and Cathy for your advice. ) I appreciate it.
And.. I definitely DO NOT want her to be autistic! It is just a question. Thanks

chasetwins05 asked:


PLease only answer if you have expirience with autistic children. I have twin girls who will be 3 Feb 08. One of the girls has had a few febrile seizures – she has a slight speech issue as well as delayed learning on certain things not everything.
She just started walking on her toes and dragging her head on the floor – this started THIS week. She is a wild child and insists on being the center of attention – she is loving and plays OK with others most of the time. I run a daycare so she does get tired of others – but who wouldn’t. Do you think she is slightly autistic because of the speech delay, tippy toes thing and the dragging her head ( what ever that is all about)? I read that autistic children do not show affection – but she does. And she plays with lots of toys which I also read they do not do. She can be very defient and very good all in the same day. Kind of like Dr jekel / Mr Hyde type thing. What do you think?
By saying “getting tired of others” I mean she is a 2.5 yr old twin who is constantly with other children. Fromt ime to time there is another toddler here 10 hours day – 5 days a week that they have to share and play with. Every one needs their space and sometimes she will get edgy and does not want to share etc and can be nasty about it.

Shane asked:


I am just interested in how they would be different. I know it varies from child to child but I would just like to know how they might differ. I may be nanny-ing for a 4 year old boy with autism and would like to know how he may be different from a 4 year old without autism. Any help you can give me would be appreciated before I actually meet this boy.